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This week, on our Mom-to-Mom Radio Show we will be continuing our study “Becoming a Proverbs 31 Woman.” Our topic for this week will be, “Be Trustworthy.” It comes from Proverbs 31: 10-13:
A capable, intelligent, and virtuous woman–who is he who can find her? She is far more precious than jewels and her value is far above rubies or pearls. The heart of her husband trusts in her confidently and relies on and believes in her securely, so that he has no lack of [honest] gain or need of [dishonest] spoil. She comforts, encourages, and does him only good as long as there is life within her.
Let’s discuss some thoughts from this passage for our Mommy Homework this week! Deal? Oh! This will be great!
As you read this passage, how does it challenge YOU to become a godly wife? What does this “LOOK LIKE” in your lifestyle, relationship, home life? Describe the ways that your husband can trust in you with total confidence and security.
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DIG IN!
Love ya!
Cindy
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This is difficult for me as I am in the middle of a divorce that is not my choice. There is an internal struggle as to where did I fail and I can constantly come up with ways that I didn’t measure up to this standard in Proverbs 31 (and other passages related to wives and husbands). However, I continue to pray for the restoration of my marriage and so this passage gives me a guide to pray for God to work these characteristics out in my life.
Tara
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(((Tara)))
Tara, I want to send you big, big hugs across the cyber-space. I cannot imagine how difficult this time is for you right now. I am so, so sorry!
There is nothing quite like struggles in the family to make you feel like you do not measure up or to make you wonder what you could have done different. That is SO human! But, as you shared here, this divorce is NOT YOUR CHOICE! Soak that in again.
As humans, we are distinct from animals and all of the rest of God’s awesome creation. We are created in the image of God with a free will. We get the opportunity to CHOOSE. Boy, that can be fabulous when our choices are in line with God’s best for us and others who surround us. But, it can be devastating when our choices hurt others.
Tara, this divorce is NOT your choice.
You are on the right track by letting these passages do the “heart surgery” that will help you to learn all you can from this situation. God’s Word can bring us conviction. That often hurts. But, it brings us even more–it brings us instruction that helps us to walk in God’s ways…it brings us comfort that brings us the healing that is needed to press past our situations…it brings us hope for our future which will be brighter than the days we have come through.
I know this study is not easy. OH! Do I know! I have been smack-dab-in-the-middle of this one for a while (way before I began teaching it). It is SO convicting, but yet deep down you and I both know that when we truly look at what is outlined in this passage, it is some of the very things that I KNOW you are busy doing.
If you missed the audio, check it out. You are going to like where it goes. God moved on my heart with some pretty amazing thoughts that I don’t think I have ever verbalized quite like I did in the audio. I hope it will be easy for you to enjoy!
Again, big hugs! I love you like crazy!
Love,
Cindy
(((Tara))) I am so sorry that you are struggling. I agree with what Cindy said . And I think you are on the right track with letting these verses guide you in prayer.
My hubby designs, laser cuts & sells rc planes (and now boats too). He knows that I will support him in whatever direction he takes the business and will always be here to help with the designs and business decisions (even at 2am). Right now we are all working on a name for a new plane design, always a fun process around here 🙂 He also completely trusts me with the kids education 🙂 And he trusts me with our home, which sometimes I feel is undeserved b/c I am not the best housekeeper but I am learning – I hope 😉 I have not had a chance to listen to this series yet Cindy but I REALLY want too, hopefully soon I will do it 🙂
One thing that I have always tried to be to my husband is close by if he needs to talk during the day when something goes wrong at work. Things have been pretty emotional lately with all the happenings in our family lately but one thing that I determined long ago that no matter what stress we went through, NO ONE would hear me complain about my husband. Yes, he has his flaws but I promised to stand by him no matter what and that is what I have tried to do.
I know I’m not the “perfect” wife but I hope that he feels that I am his jewel. He is my BEST FRIEND next to our Heavenly Father. I have a lot to learn but I have tried to be faithful in every way to him.
Orilla Crider
Society looks at, how you look, how much money you have, the house you live in, and other material ways. All of this is of no value in eternity. It is easy to get caught up in trying to look good for society and neglect the values that God looks at.
“A capable, intelligent, and virtuous woman–who is he who can find her? She is far more precious than jewels and her value is far above rubies or pearls.”
The Lord looks at us as precious jewels. He does not look for the amount of money we have or how outwardly beautiful we are. What’s important is that we do our best to be capable, intelligent, and virtuous (upright and pure) in all we do.
“The heart of her husband trusts in her confidently and relies on and believes in her securely, so that he has no lack of [honest] gain or need of [dishonest] spoil.”
We will never be perfect, but we should strive to uphold, care for, and speak well of our husbands. Building our husband up in our speech is important. Comments that are made in “fun” can hinder our relationship. Speak with an uplifting tongue.
“She comforts, encourages, and does him only good as long as there is life within her.”
Praying for our husband is vital. We do not always know what he is facing, but God does. Be his number one supporter. Let him know you care. Pray before you speak anything critical or opposing. This is extremely hard! Ask God if it is something that should be said or better left silent.
Marriage is not easy! It is a daily learning experience that God WILL help us with.
What an honor to be called trustworthy! I think my husband and children can say that about me and I could use that word as well to describe my mother, but many husbands/wives do not fully trust their spouses and as well children with parents. My husband has confidence that my clothing/appearance and my actions will be trustworthy when I am apart from him. I think also we can be trustworthy because we report to the King of Kings and if we seek His desires for our lives we will be the woman He describes! My husband as well is trustworthy but regardless I must be what the Lord desires of me!
Tina K
My husband wrote a Valentines Day letter for me this year. One thing that he said that stands out in my mind is that I help him see the positive and the good in things and people. I think that he trusts that I am going to do that and help him be a better person in that area. I was glad that he told me that because it helps me to see the kinds of things that he appreciates and looks for me to do.
Because our son has had major medical issues – heart defects and severe food allergies, my DH has had to trust me to take care of our son (afterall, he loves our son just as much as I do) while he is at work providing for us. He’s had to trust that I know what to do, and know who to call when I need help. He also trusts that I will not make any major decisions without his input. We seem to have struck the balance where he can trust me to take care of the smaller health issues myself (so he doesn’t have to deal with his job and every little thing at home), but grab him when we need to put our heads together for the bigger issues. The same goes for our homeschool.
God has really made our friendship and marriage a beautiful team. During the day, I’m home taking care of our life here while he works to provide for us. At night, our hearts and time are focused on one another. We trust each other because we are both dedicated to our family and it shows.
Kimberly Ehlers
Tara i am so sorry i have been though a divorce{hugs}, am on my second and last marriage. Be strong there is always hope.
As far as being trust worthy i simply need to learn to keep my mouth shut i tend to say hateful things when i am terribly frustrated………..i have 4 children 3 of them special needs {aspergers syndrome/ autism}……………………..and a hubby that works very hard 12 hrs a day 6 days a week and i do not give him credit for how hard that must be for him. Instead i’m often upset that i am raising these children on my “own.” Though hubby trusts me i feel i violate it by saying mean things. Please pray for me in this issue, my mouth truly is my down fall. And i truly want it to get better more so than it has.