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Our topic this week is “The Perfect Proposal!”
Your Assignment This Week…
Guess what! We are planning a wedding around our house! I am soooo excited! This brings me to my personal request for Mommy Homework today.
Everyone remembers their proposal for marriage as one of the most precious moments of their life. Probably the second most precious time is when our children are at this sweet time of their life.. I know that there is nothing more amazing than putting our brains together–so kick back with a cup of tea and help me with this one. Think back over your own proposal or those you have heard about. Help us brainstorm the perfect proposal. Describe it. Share detailed ideas. I can’t wait!
This one should be very, very good! Can’t wait! 
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Well Personally I loved mine. God was so in it. History is needed to understand. I met Jim at Church. I was Gabriel in the Christmas pagent. Just home from College and he was in on leave from the Army. One of my college professors at the time was also our Pastor. Jim’s leave was delayed a few days so he didn’t arrive until the next to last practice. Mr. Williams on of our Young adult leaders introduced us. Being female and having just turned 18 the month before.(I graduated early.)As well as being out of my parents home(O.K. I had to live with an older cousin and his family. He was also in Bible college at the same school. Loved him and his wife. Awesome Godly people.)
Since Jim was in the service we really couldn’t date. He would come ome on weekends and on leave for a week at a time. We wrote letters alot. 4-5 a week. (Now he complains I don’t write to him. He’s sitting in the Living room. I can walk in and talk to him. Although I could slip him a note when the teachers not looking. )
Jim’s Mom really wasn’t fond of the Idea that he was serious about someone. She wanted him to go to WestPoint and to be an officer. He had an open Congressional invitation. He turned it down. Yes I am the reason he turned it down. Anyway she caused such a stink that Jim was really worried about her. I was praying as was he, I asked God to help me know what to do,I also told him that if Jim wasn’t the one for me to let this be the end of it. If not and I was to marry him then to please answer my fleece. So I laid out a fleece. My fleece was that Jim would call in the middle of the afternoon (not normal) and that he would ask me what to do about his mothers attitude. My answer was to be Send her a bouquet of flowers with Roses in it. The card was to say Mom, I love you I always will, but I am not a child. Jim. Jim did call, in the course of the conversation he asked me what am I going to do about Mom and her attitude. I promptly answered. He dropped the phone, then said please repeat that. I did. He got very quiet. Then he said uhm. I was praying and asked God to have you tell me that exact same thing if you are the woman I am suppose to marry. I sat there for a minute and said that’s not possible I prayed the same thing not 3 hours ago. We both got quiet. Then he says So what do you think about an Easter wedding? I did get my engagement ring at the Bill Gothard Seminar the following month. We hadn’t said much to anyone until then. Other than our parents and a few close friends. However being the oldest of 5 younger siblings don’t keep secrets well at all. LOL No one was surprised when I walked in with my ring. We did have to arrange the wedding 5 times. The Army didn’t want to cooperate. I eventually had to get my congressman involved to get Jim home for our wedding. That’s another story.
We were married 26 years ago on July 12, 1983 Our son was born March 16,1985.
Lisa Robinson
lisa@lisascornerstone.org
Congrats on the upcoming marriage! Fun, fun, fun!
My proposal is a sweet memory. My husband invited me to go on a walk in the bluffs near where we lived during college. We walked through the woods for a while, something we always enjoyed doing together. We found a nice cliff overlooking a beautiful valley and sat down to rest. After sitting and talking a bit he said, “Just a minute…” and ran out into the woods and came back with a brown grocery bag and he took out of the bag a bouquet of yellow flowers (my favorite color), wine glasses and sprite to drink, and lemon bars he made (my favorite). He had gone out earlier in the day and hid the bag in the woods. We ate and drank and talked and I kept expecting the ring must be under that lemon bar and as I ate I would find it! It wasn’t. He took the ring out of his pocket, got down on one knee, said a bunch of sweet stuff and asked to marry me. Of course I said yes! We took a bunch of pictures together so we could remember the time. We walked through the bluffs a little more. A friend who knew about the proposal had made an engagement cake for us and packed a picnic basket with a hot dinner. We went and got it and had a picnic dinner in another beautiful place in our town. Afterwards we called our families to share the big news. They knew it was going to happen soon since my husband had called my dad to ask permission to marry me. My husband did a great job being sweet and romantic and prepared and I am always thankful how he proposed to me in such a thoughtful way that he knew would suit me! 🙂
Mine was definitely out of the ordinary. We had been talking on the phone – long distance relationship – for awhile. One day he told me about a bet he made with his dad. He told me that they had bet that I would be the girl he married.
I went out to meet him and stayed with his parents. We went out one night and at the end of the evening, he started talking about the bet and said he was sure that he would win (why are men so cocky sometimes?! :>). Well, I apparently didn’t mind the cockiness at that point because I said I would marry him.
I went to visit him a couple of months later for an Engaged Encounter weekend and we made the decicion to live in the house next door to his parents until we got established. One day he called from work to say he wanted to check something out at the house. When I met him over there, he dropped to one knee and presented me with my ring.
I did hear of one proposal that I thought was absolutely wonderful… A man took his girlfriend to an Adoration Chapel and proposed to her in front of the Blessed Sacrament.. What better way to begin a marriage than include Jesus?!
I actually don’t remember my marriage proposal. But my brother-in-law was involved in a marriage proposal that I thought was so neat. A friend of his was going to propose to his girlfriend and he asked my brother-in-law to be there to record it with a video camera. But the girlfriend didn’t know it was being recorded. It ended up being the sweetest proposal. Another neat thing is she spoke Spanish as her main language and he proposed in Spanish. She didn’t know he could speak any! It was so romantic.
My DH & I had been hanging out & communicating long distance (via email, letters & phone) as best friends for about a year and a half. He flew to VA from CO for my sr. prom. We were on the couch watching Robin Hood (w/ Kevin Costner), when it was over he said you will be my wife and I want you to stay home. It was just a given for both both of us that he would not have to ask me to marry him, b/c we both just knew 🙂 When he drove back for my graduation he talked to my dad and then announced it at my party. My uncles cried (we thought maybe b/c they were still single! LOL). We went that week and picked out our rings! This year we will be celebrating our 14 year wedding anniversary & 17 yrs of knowing one another!
My husband was the sweetest when he asked me to marry him. At little history. We met through a blind date. A friend wanted us to meet and Cary was reluctant, but agreeed to call me. We talked for 3 hours and when he hung up the phone, he said to himself that he thought he just got off the phone with the woman he was going to marry. We started planning our wedding about 3 months later, but we still weren’t engaged because he was waiting until I had the ring to propose.
We went to his parent house in March. In the back of the truck coming home was a large box. As it turned out, the box held a bunch of rocks, including my ring. See there are these really neat rocks found in Central KY where his grandmother lives. His parents had brought a bunch back for me. He gave me the box and I had to fish all the rocks out of it. In there was my ring box. He told me he loved me, didn’t have much, but would love me forever. Melted my heart and he got an immediate yes. We have been married 10 years this coming Sept and have 2 precious daughters. God is so good.
Shannon Depew
My proposal was traditional…but very sweet! And after more than twenty years of marriage, I think my husband’s proposal worked quite well and was very effective! LOL But I want to tell you how my nieces received their proposals. One niece and her ‘special person’ went for a nice day at the beach. Suddenly a plane flew over with one of those banners we all see that advertise things from local businesses. But this time, it said something different. Chris nudged Steffany and said to look up at the plane. The banner said, “Steff, will you marry me? Chris.” She said yes, and they were married a year later and only one day before our sixth child was born. My husband preformed the ceremony and my youngest daughter was the flower girl. The wedding was two hours away, so I stayed home. I sat very still because I knew labor was coming…soon. I just prayed that my family would make it back before I had to go the hospital. They did, and now I can always remember how long Chris and Steff’ have been married by looking at my youngest!
My other niece got her proposal at Forsyth Park in Savannah in front of the fountain! Very romantic!
And just to throw in one more. Recently, my husband and children attended the rodeo at the GA National Fair Site. The rodeo is also shown on large screens on either side of the arena. Some guy named Corey had his proposal to Rachel written on that large screen at the rodeo. Hmmm…wonder if he was a cowboy!
This was fun and congrats on the wedding news! Share more?
Blessings,
Amy O.
Oops…I meant he PERFORMED the ceremony!
I met my husband before I got saved and both of us had already been married. It had not been a positive experience for either of us.
My poor beloved was scared of ever remarrying, even a tv advert showing a wedding would make him break out in a cold sweat.
Then we both got the flu and while we were sick, feeling sorry for ourselves and not looking our best, we were chatting and somehow marriage got mentioned. I said that with his marriage-a-phobia by the time he got around to asking me I probably wouldn’t want to marry him!!!!!
That did it – the next day (still with the flu) we were shopping for a ring!
Now this may not sound too romantic or perfect to you but the funny thing is my first husbands proposal was probably very romantic, but now I can’t even remember it!
The perfect proposal is the one made my the one who really loves you, the one God made you to be with, the one who will love you in good times and bad. The proof of the pudding is in the eating as they say.
Love and Blessings
Angela Marchington
My proposal was different and in a two step ordeal. Yes, I have a very sweet and loving husband that came up with unusual ways. Our dating as mostly around church functions, so it really wasn’t unusual the way things worked out. Our church doesn’t agree with rings, so we the men either give a Bible or watch or something special like that.
One Saturday afternoon while we were working on the church bulletin my darling DH turned to me and asked “if I asked you to marry me what would you say?”. To say the least that was the last thing I was thinking about at that time. I had only dated one other person in my life and I had a rule that if we ever broke up, it better be serious enough because I would never take him back. My sweetheart knew this and I got scared that maybe something was wrong. I turned to him and seriously asked him why he was asking. All he did was repeat his words and watched me closely. I finally caught my breath and told him that I had been praying about just how I would answer that question and I really felt that he was the man that God had picked out for me.
But he didn’t ask me!! I was graduating from college two months later and Sunday afternoon, before I graduated the next Friday, after church and eating lunch with my sister and I we did the dishes and cleaned up and then went into the living room. He excused himself for a few minutes and went out to his “blue baby” car and then came back in. I didn’t see anything usual so I didn’t dream what was coming. My sister went to her friends place next door and left us two alone.
I got up and went for a book that I wanted to show him. I can remember laying the book down next to him so I could answer the phone. When I came back he was reading his book that he had brought. When I opened mine there lay a homemade watch with the words “I have prayed long and hard for someone to walk the next part of my life with, He gave me you, will you marry me.” I couldn’t believe it! When I looked up he was kneeling before me with a very beautiful watch box and watch. The watch has long not run but every once in awhile I take out the very special watch that he personally made me and it looks well worn now and remember that day that he asked me if I would walk this part of life with. Yes, I declared that I wanted to be his wife and that God had blessed me with a wonderful husband to be.
Next week, we will be celebrating 15 years together that God has blessed our marriage and given us a wonderful family to love. I know that some get flashing proposals but he knew that I loved homemade things and that this would mean so much to both of us down the road. To this day, that has been a day that I would never forget!!
Orilla Crider
I’m afraid that we were total heathens when we became engaged, so I wouldn’t recommend the way we did it – it was completely pagan.
Ah! You’ll have to tell us about this upcoming wedding, how wo xciting! It definitely must be romantic and dramatic if possible. This memory is one that women look back on throughout their marriages and when they encounter hard times to keep the flame burning!
It must be a complete surprise, and not something that the woman egged the man into doing (argh!) Of course that isn’t likely to be the case here – talking about my own tendencies.
It should incorporate the things that the woman loves most – that demonstrates understanding and consideration of her unique, individual bents. For a booklover like me, I’d recommend buying a book about marriage or devotions for couples and asking if she’d like to read through it with him as a study. That might evoke some confusion, so on the first page could be the BIG question!
Ah, that’s corny, but there you go!
The perfect proposal . . . well, mine was perfect for me! 😉 I am blessed to be married to the love of my life — a man who loves God more than he loves me! When he proposed, he took me to the place he had been (on a Bible school retreat) when God had spoken to him that I was the one that God had for him. So he proposed on the beach at sunrise on Easter Sunday morning . . . it was absolutely gorgeous! 🙂
My best “advice” for a proposal is to take into account what is special to the bride-to-be and the relationship that the couple share together. For me, it was so special to know that my beloved had driven 8 hours one way (16 hours total!) just to ask my parents for their blessing before he proposed to me. Also precious to me was the fact that he took me to the place he had been when God spoke to him — it was so affirming of the fact that God was the center of our relationship. Also, the number “8” was significant to our relationship, so he had 8 red roses waiting for me at his parents’ home when we got there afterwards.
Blessings to you at this wonderfully exciting time for your family!
Lisa
Congratulations, to your entire family!
I have been thinking about my proposal from my husband lately, since our anniversary is soon. We had been on a long drive over a mountain close to home. He would have had opportunity all day, but chose what he felt was the perfect spot! He knelt down and asked me to be his wife! I think what makes a proposal special is because it is yours and the special place or music or whatever means more to those two people than anyone else may care or understand! Thanks
My proposal was spontaneous. We had started dating in January, in March we were just hanging out together, talking and sharing dreams, not doing anything out of the ordinary. My husband said, “I just can’t wait anymore. Will you marry me?” I was so surprised, I didn’t say anything for a moment, I just hugged him. He said, “Is this a yes?” I nodded as I couldn’t say anything for a moment. He had planned to do it a much different way. He had a necklace that was his father’s (who had passed away) and had asked his mom who lived in North Carolina, to send it to him. He had planned on waiting until he had that to propose, but he couldn’t wait. We’ve been married for 171/2 years and are blessed with 6 wonderful children.
From the time of our second first date (3 years after the first first date) we knew we would be marrying-and the sooner the better. We had looked at rings once. I wanted him to pick the ring, but I let him know what I liked-simple and practical-and find out my ring size. About 3 months after that 2nd first date, he came walking into my house. I wasn’t suspecting anything at that time. He followed me into the restroom though I said I’d be right back. I sat down, he got down on one knee. Not the memory I was hoping for 🙂 Memorable nonetheless. Three months later we were married. We planned it so our honeymoon would coincide with my spring break from university. Now, 9 years and 5+ children later he still surprises me in unique ways.